Valentine Chemistry

How was this year's February 14th? Think about it for a second.

You think it was good? Great, I'm happy for you.
You think it was bad? Well, don't worry if you didn't get any flower or sweets. Some things just can't be measured by other things, and this is one of them.
Also, if you get anything from someone just on Val's day, you should question yourself whether they really care. Let's say Val's day is gone, no more Val's day, will that person still give anything for you? What I'm trying say is, we don't necessarily need a day to show someone else that we care about them.

Okay, okay, I know I'm starting to sound like a terribly picky and materialistic person. In order for me to maintain my good image, I'm going to define that - or rather, those 'things' mentioned above.

Have you ever heard the 5 languages of love? (This is universal love, okay. Not limited to romantic love or passionate love or anything like that.)

If your dominant language is.....
1. Touch -> you show you care through hugs, pats on the back and things that involve physical touch. You wouldn't like people you hate doing those things, or even being close to you.
Nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch.

2. Words -> you show you care by talking to that person a lot. Like saying or explaining your thoughts and anything on your mind. You especially despise hearing negative things or insults about you or your loved ones.
This language uses words to reaffirm people.

3. Give -> you show you care someone by giving gifts. Gifts include food and drinks, accessories, books, well anything material to be honest. You don't give things to just anybody. You really hate getting things that you don't like.
What makes them feel most loved is to receive a gift.

4. Serve -> you show you care by doing anything that helps the one you love. Simple things, such as helping with a friend's homework, washing the dishes and sweeping the floor. You wouldn't even give an offer to help with any of that if you don't really like a person.
For these people, actions speak louder than words.

5. Quality time -> you show you care by spending some time with them, like eating lunch together or doing projects together. When you do and the person does not give you attention, you'd likely feel disrespected.
This language is all about giving the other person your undivided attention.


I think the 5 languages of love is worth knowing to have better relations with others.

Here's a real story:
A's least dominant language is touch while her friend B's most dominant language is touch. When B is happy, B will hug A, if B is tired, B will put her arms around A. A feels really uncomfortable with all this touch going on, no doubt about it.
If A doesn't know about the 5 languages, A will likely despise B.
Since A knows about the 5 languages, A tolerates B's actions and even gives B a hug if B is feeling down.

Okay so there you go! This post is getting too long now. If you want to find out your dominant language, just head over to www.5lovelanguages.com.